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Here are some answers to questions we have received in the past from our survivor community. We hope these answers can help survivors, advocates, and the general public learn more about trauma and survivor healing.

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Can there be medical evidence 10 years later after experiencing sodomy, rape or sexual assault?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

Is grooming always between a grown adult and a child?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

I think I might've been groomed and sexually abused as a child, but my memory feels very scrambled. I feel guilty for thinking I might've been assaulted, what do I do?

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Meaning Making

Can I even call myself a survivor if it only happened a week ago? I'm not even over it.

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Managing Trauma Impact

How can I move from a victim to a survivor mentality?

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Seeking Help After Trauma

How do I recover from my rapist getting his charges expunged?

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Do you have legal advice for victims who are experiencing violence?

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Supporting Survivors

What advice do you have for the victims who are currently experiencing violence?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence
Meaning Making

Am I still allowed to call what happened sexual assault when it wasn't penetrative?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence
Healing Week

Is it possible to get flashbacks despite being healed? Does feeling nothing mean I've healed?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence
Managing Trauma Impact

How do I understand why something triggers me?

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Meaning Making

How do I deal with family members who do not take my traumatic history seriously?

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Managing Trauma Impact

What should I do if my partner pushes my boundaries in a way that makes me uncomfortable?

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Meaning Making

How does forgiveness play into trauma recovery?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

What is the rape kit backlog and what are my evidence collecting options?

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Managing Trauma Impact

How can I deal with the mental and cognitive impacts of my trauma?

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Healing Week

How can I celebrate the small ways I am healing from trauma?

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Managing Trauma Impact

What is self-blame and how can I manage it?

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Seeking Help After Trauma

What should I do if I am unable to leave an unhealthy environment?

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Managing Trauma Impact

How can I deal with “bad days” when I am healing from trauma?

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Managing Trauma Impact

Since my attack, I’ve had sex. However, I can’t seem to feel…connected. It’s like I’m just going through the motions. I’m afraid to open up emotionally to anyone, and I’m not sure how to get past that.

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Supporting Survivors

I know someone who is physically abused by her husband, but she won't ask for help or file a complaint. She is scared because she has 2 small children and is also not independent financially. How can I help her?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

What is the cycle of abuse and how can this cycle be broken?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

I was sexually harmed by someone of my own gender and now I identify as LGBTQ+, does this mean my experience made me gay?

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Managing Trauma Impact

How do I make this discomfort and confusion to go away?

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Managing Trauma Impact

Every year on the anniversary of my trauma, I feel a fresh pain deep down. I’m even triggered by holiday preparations, certain drinks, and other things that remind me of the season. How can I best support myself on an anniversary I don’t want to remember?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

I don't want to believe I was assaulted as a young child because I know this person very well and can't see it in them to act this way but I can recall details and have vivid flashbacks. What should I do? How do I seek help for this?

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Managing Trauma Impact
Seeking Help After Trauma

How can I be in a functional relationship after experiencing trauma? Why do I feel so ashamed? Will I always feel this way?

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Supporting Survivors

Describe how would you help a gender-based violence (GBV) victim.

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Understanding Trauma & Violence
Seeking Help After Trauma

It is hard to find much about male survivors, even harder to find information about male survivors of female perpetrators. It does happen, but it is such a forbidden topic that no one wants to talk or even hear about it, only further isolating the victim. It is a lonely place.

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

Why might survivors of gender-based violence may feel hesitant to report the human rights violation?

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Supporting Survivors

Describe immediate supports that should be given to a victim that has just been violated.

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

What strategies can South Africans put into place to prevent gender-based violence?

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Meaning Making
Understanding Trauma & Violence

How do I know if I was abused?

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Supporting Survivors

How can I support victims of human trafficking?

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Understanding Trauma & Violence

What are ways women can protect themselves against female abuse?

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Managing Trauma Impact

How can I learn to manage the anger, frustration, and aggression I feel?

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Do you have a age limit on who can contribute to the Our Wave community?

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Seeking Help After Trauma

What is the reporting process like?

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Seeking Help After Trauma
Sharing Your Story

If I want to seek professional help for my experiences, what are my options?

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