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Victim to Perpetrator Pipeline

I feel like nobody talks about COCSA.
And I feel like no one talks about female perpetrators.
I’m not necessarily here to talk about the abuse that happened to me, but for context, I was nine and the other child was a nine year old girl.
What really haunts me is what I did after. I inflicted this pain onto someone else, I figure I was probably about 10 and she was 9. She was my mom’s friends daughter. My mom’s best friend, actually. And I’ve been thinking a lot about how much that must’ve ruined their friendship when they found out what hap...

Victim to Perpetrator Pipeline

I feel like nobody talks about COCSA.
And I feel like no one talks about female perpetrators.
I’m not necessarily here to talk about the abuse that happened to me, but for context, I was nine and the other child was a nine year old girl.
What really haunts me is what I did after. I inflicted this pain onto someone else, I figure I was probably about 10 and she was 9. She was my mom’s friends daughter. My mom’s best friend, actually. And I’ve been thinking a lot about how much that must’ve ruined their friendship when they found out what hap...

trusting the wrong person

I need to reach out i hope to heal from this. my goal is to get him locked up before this happens again. my hope is to ask god to guide me.

Dear reader, the following story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.

#924

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“We believe you. Your stories matter.”

Normalise sexual assualt

There is always light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope as "hope is a thing with feathers." There is help out there and there is always someone willing to listen. Things always get better in the end, there is so much more to look forward to. You are not your past trauma. There is a future out there, waiting.

#922

You are good enough, you always have been. You are not determined by what others think, say, or do.

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#918

Healing means comfort and weaning off of comfort until I don’t need it anymore

Processing everything all at once

What happened to you is valid. Trauma is trauma, and don’t let anybody make you believe you’re being dramatic because you’re not. Your hurt is valid and I believe you. And I support you.

My Endless Ambition

My roommate took advantage of me, took advantage of me needing to move out of a dangerous environment, took advantage of my naivety, took advantage of my trust in them. I will never get to be the same because of you. I will try my whole life for something I will never achieve.

“These moments in time, my brokenness, has been transformed into a mission. My voice used to help others. My experiences making an impact. I now choose to see power, strength, and even beauty in my story.”

From Frustration to Acceptance: A Survivor's Journey After Sexual Abuse

In the aftermath of sexual abuse, frustration is likely the first emotion to surface. The violation of trust and safety inherent in sexual abuse breeds anger and a sense of powerlessness in the abused. This frustration is a natural response to the trauma. The abuser's actions shatter the survivor's sense of control and security over their own body, leaving them feeling angry and powerless. Why does this happen? Sexual abuse is a deeply personal violation. It disrupts the fundamental sense of safety and well-being that we all rely on.

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My COCSA survival story

To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.

#915

When I was 3, I began being sexually abused by my 11 year old half sister. We would go into my room and she would lock the door. We would hump each other and touch each other. Sometimes without clothes and sometimes with. This went on for months until we moved into a different house. At this house, my parents started babysitting a boy from our church who was 3 years older than me. He would make me lay on the floor while he touched all over my body and humped me. I felt so disgusted with myself for so many years. At 18, I was raped by a boy I h...

Seadawgs

I love you, and one day you'll find yourself being okay.

Abuse of Authority

You are not alone.
Keep fighting.
You are a survivor.

“I really hope sharing my story will help others in one way or another and I can certainly say that it will help me be more open with my story.”

#916

You are loved, and you matter!

"Little Miss Sunshine"

“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.”
Samuel Smiles
Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you.
Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.

#912

I sincerely hope that you get the help you deserve because no one deserves to go through something like this

#904

Healing is acceptance, forgiveness and being able tomove forward

Dear reader, the following story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.

Name

Jesus loves you and me and He wants us to heal and He WILL punish those who harmed us in the worst way.

“Healing means forgiving myself for all the things I may have gotten wrong in the moment.”

Doomsday

If nothing else is true in life, it is that the sun always rises. It might be cloudy. It might rain, or it might storm. But no matter what, no day lasts forever. No feeling lasts forever. Even if it hurts right now, and it feels like someone is ripping out your soul—I promise that the feeling does not last forever.

911

To the other survivors, I want you to know that you aren’t alone in this and that it’s not your fault. It was never your fault.

#902

For any survivor reading this, you are not alone.
I come from a quite large family where abuse and neglect happened on a daily base, the abuse happened starting from 2 to around 13, I was very isolated and had a lot to learn when I was saved. I wasn't aware of all the dangers and knew nothing about healthy boundaries. I learned to be invisible and submissive. I quickly learned that my past caused me to be revictimized, I felt no self worth and thought the only way I was loved was by giving away my body to strangers, strangers who took advantag...

906

Always remember it is NEVER your fault. Don't let people twist your mind into thinking you caused anything of what happened to you. The problem lies with the PERPETRATORS and the ABUSERS. THEY are the ones who have the problem, NOT YOU. Find those that DO support you, and keep them close and in your heart.

903

To anyone who needs hope if you need a hug know I'm one you can trust to pray for you. I'll do my level best to support you. Be strong my dears and know God loves you and will help you heal too. Just ask and you shall find. I'm here too if you need me at all. Hoping to go to a take back the night event this year in villagenear my town.

“You are the author of your own story. Your story is yours and yours alone despite your experiences.”

My relatives covered up for the perpetrator and other violence in my life

I wish that all those who hurt you could be punished. Just know that you didn't deserve this treatment, you deserve only the best. Anyway, I'm really sorry that you had such an experience. I hope there will be less violence of any kind in the world. We deserve to live in a safe world.

Still I rise

It may take time and it is not easy and you are not alone but I promise it is possible to move forward and help others who have been in the same situation

Dear reader, the following story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.

#901

Healing isn't always linear, there are ups and downs to every healing process. Just remind yourself that you didn't ask for that and it wasn't your fault.

Healing... Finally.

It is always difficult to tell your story, and to grow from it and not let it define you. But there is always hope and a brighter future then what happened. And yes, it SUCKS to grow thru it, and have those memories. But stay strong, everything heals and time definitely helps.

#892

It does get better and no matter what, always remember: ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! I am doing much better now and I am in a stable and loving relationship with a respectful guy almost 2 years later. You are loved and you are strong. You got this!

“Healing is different for everyone, but for me it is listening to myself...I make sure to take some time out of each week to put me first and practice self-care.”

#894

It gets better

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