I recently found out my then-boyfriend, faked his STD test from Labcorp. It took some work, but finally was able to get the truth. I had noticed missing texts where he has said he just left the lab for testing. He even faked the sore spot on his arm. The test looked legit. He knew that my past included rape and major fear of STDs. He said something I'll never forget the last time I saw him (I was wanting to end it) he hugged me from behind and said " I do care about you. You're going to be ok". I now know what that meant. I feel not only violated physically and emotionally but feel that he took my wounds and used them to violate me. In my effort to speak up to law enforcement on this issue as it was non-consent sex, I was told that it was a civil matter as it was a verbal contract. I'm feeling very much as if I'm being ignored as isn't most sexual encounters verbal. I don't know of anyone that has a written contract prior to sex. It just seems as if there is no way to speak up and have rights as a woman. Even when you try to do the thing to keep safe. I did the thing and there was no way I could have known. Moving forward I'll be at the STD testing myself to make sure it is real.

Since that time, I've spoken to many in the legal field, therapists, and social media influencers. The word is spreading locally and nationwide people are finding out. The best way for me to heal is to speak out! The more men and women are informed the better chance of stopping these covert sexual crimes.