When a Safe Space Shatters: Why Adults May Not Believe a Young Person's Abuse Story
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Imagine your world suddenly turns upside down. Someone you love, someone you trust, hurts you in ways they shouldn't. That's what happens when a young person is abused, especially when it involves sexual abuse. But the pain doesn't stop there. Sometimes, even trusted adults like family members don't believe they are abused. The disbelief regarding sexual abuse comes from a confusing place called cognitive dissonance. It's like a mental alarm screaming "This can't be happening!" because accepting the truth would shatter the picture-perfect image they have of their loved ones and their family. So, they cling to denial, even when faced with evidence. The truth is abuse thrives in silence. Abusers are experts at manipulating, weaving webs of fear that keep victims and potential allies quiet. The abusers play on societal myths about who gets abused and how abuse "looks," making it harder for young people, especially those who have been sexually abused, to be heard. Moreover, when the abuse involves sexual abuse, additional layers of discomfort and disbelief often come into play. Society's taboos and stigmas surrounding sexual matters can exacerbate the reluctance to believe a young person's account of sexual abuse. There might be a tendency to rationalize the situation, to attribute the young person's statements to confusion or misunderstanding rather than acknowledging the gravity of the abuse. Remember, the blame for disbelief never falls on the young person abused. They are brave for speaking up and deserve support, not judgment. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, especially sexual abuse, please reach out. You are not alone. There are people who care, Resources are available to help you heal.