Start preparing even before you feel ready because the moment when you feel ready to leave an abusive relationship you want to be prepared...But about healing, you really got to sit it through at least the first like 90 days, six months You have to wait. You just have to do this for one year...because your head is just spinning. Like that’s just what you know. It’s what you’re used to. It’s where you’re getting all of your confidence, all of your stability just from one person so you have to expect yourself to spin out for a few months after that happens. So just like wait out that first period.
Message of Healing
Healing is understanding. It is realizing what isn’t meant for you.
I took the time in the morning to run errands...this is definitely something [my ex and I] would have done together. I parked on the same street where we always used to find parking, but I was just doing all of it completely alone. There was this person playing the violin in the rain…I took some time to just stand there and watch…I just felt kind of connected with this person…I really felt an experience I could only have if I was alone in that moment. It just reminds me that you’re an individual person. Even if you’re in a relationship, sometimes you just need to have moments by yourself so that you can make those choices...
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