3 experiences and an boring but good escape
I was 19 when 1 and i got together. Within the first month i found out he had cheated on me. But we had just moved in together because his mom was kicking him out(he was 23). After we were living together i found out he raped my roomate and also a good friend of mine(2 different folks). I didnt understand for years that being cooersed into sex wasnt normal. It wasn't normal to not want to and feel bad and do it anyway. He eventually got worse. Started punching holes in walls next to my face. Finally after he shook in the car aftter a fight, it hit me i left. I immediately rebounded to 2, 2 grabbed me by my hair while he was on acid and threatened to carve his name into my face. I left shortly after that and 3 swooped in as i was a vunerable target. He would punch his steering wheel when he was angry. And he would guilt me about being scared saying his “ex left him because he was too violent”. I grew up with an abusive father, and i didnt realize until 2 years went by that my saftey was in danger. It started with voilence against objects, and turned into shaking me when i was crying. 3 was never the definition of physical but he would start fights right before bed and keep me up for hours. Telling me what i was doing wrong with my life, my money, what was wrong w my body. At one point a roommate interviened in a fight bc they couldn’t stand hearing 3 berate me the way they constantly did. 3 also would guilt me when i didn't want sex. I wondered for so many years across those relationships, why i never had much sexual interest in my partner after a few months. And i would never feel comfy undressing. It’s because 1 and 2 both felt like they had free access to my body and i didn’t like/understand that. In all im still making peace with all that ive lost. When i left 3, i got together with his friend who saw the abuse and couldnt be friends with him anymore after over it. Alot of my friends chose 3’s side after because they stopped believing me when i got together with friend. Friend and i are still together and im working every day to get past my ptsd from those experiences.