When I was 6 years old my cousin molested me I was living in the village and one time I was sitting at my underwear was visible to her and she showed me hers it was the same one it had babies doll face on the front, then she asked me to go to the bush with her and she was on to I don't really remember the details of this but I think my other cousin was doing the same thing to me, When I was seven my Dad took me to the city to live with my mom and brother together as family, I was happy to leave the village life . When we got to the city, our neighbor same age as me was having sex with the boys and when her mother was giving her a bath she was crying, when her mother checked her vagina blood was visible and scrapped and cuts, her mother beat her up, and she was yelling " you are letting boys to do dirty things to you that's what you get stupid child " The crying and beating continues while her mom would be scrubbing her really hard to "cleanse" her private parts for the shameless and dirty act that just happened to her, for the sake of the story I'm gonna nick name her {~Name~} My mother asked {~Name~}'s mother, "what's wrong " she said This stupid goat is letting boys go inside her lady parts, the pain is what she gets, for being a whore" I was listening to this loud conversation going on outside and since it's in Africa women give baths to their 8 year olds outside when it's about to get dark We would be taking baths outside all the time to the time we were like 11 years old as I can remember I'm 28 years now I live in the United States in California So I automatically stayed away from {~Name~}, and boys plus she didn't speake my native tongue though we could understand each other that incident made me scared of her, I don't know why till now So my other neighbor we gonna nickname her {~Neighbor~}, I started hanging out with her a lot when I was 8 years and one day she took me to the corn fields and she told me we should take off our clothes and then she was on top of me and moving up and down She told me that her cousin who was 18 we will use his name, {~Name 2~} did this to their all the time and she was a year younger than me, I can't even imagine, I remember sometimes {~Name 2~} would be winking at me wanting me to go in the boys quarter with him but I would run going where I see public interaction that way he doesn't come to me. I did stay away from boys until I was 19 years old I did not let a man touch any part of my body, and I was lucky no man ever molested me I never used to urinate on the bed but for her it was on a daily basis thinking about it I think the abuse she suffered did cause her trauma that manifesting in bed wetting. While in the corn fields my brother, may he rest in peace. caught me and {~Neighbor~} in the act and he was angry he told me to get dressed I threw on the dress I was wearing and he took me to my mother reported what he saw, he had slapped me so I reported him too for slapping me, my mom only said no "fighting you hear me? " My brother was 4 years older than me so he was twelve years at this time he nodded to my mom's words and Mom dismissed us . The house where, the girl I said she was being slapped by her mom, for having sex with boys these boys were my brother's age and older, we named her {~Name~} So I naturally stayed away from {~Name~} and boys because of what she went through, anyways {~Name~} moved out then the owner of the house rented it to this couple, and the man had 2 kids that were both older than me the youngest was my brother's age boy and girl The boy was {~Name 3~} and girl is {~Name 4~} {~Name 3~} is 14 years old {~Name 4~} is 16 I am 8 years old and then {~Name 4~} took me to her house and aggressively molested me the pain of the act I couldn't pee without pain it was a painful thing to endure I don't know why I let these people do this to me After that day I said I'll never let any man or woman play with my body in any way Now I'm 28 years old and I let a lot of men play with me even at my age I have that mentality like it I say no then I'm not being nice or maybe I have to because I feel like sex is the only way someone is going to like me I've been with men and women I don't even like sex for Christ sex I don't know why I do it. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 4 years and he always cheats on me treats me like trash and pays for prostitute and I had left him and came back I've been having problems with my vagina for 4 years now and I go to the doctor it's always one infection and another the time I had left him I had not had sex with anybody at all I was just doing me and my vagina was very peace full I just got back with him this year as of now my vagina went back to the miserable state I went to a doctor and explained what's being going on and I've just found out as of yesterday that I have a UTI and most choking I also do have Genital Herpes. I am weak in my body and I just gave out the most shocking reaction to this I could cry, I even laughed I could complain I even tried to kill my boyfriend or I could face this I asked him because I have no insurance to help me pay for the prescription and since I haven't had sex with him since the symptoms were very excruciating and I couldn't even pee without giving out a cry or tears just coming out and the itchiness nothing was comfortable , I took my bike going to the hospital and thanks it's only 5 minutes in the bike and this was not an easy task I had to be seen by a doctor, he refused to go with me to the hospital and since then refused to pay my prescription because I'm not having sex with him He always fucks me in my sleep all the time every time he gets a chance, I used to be an alcoholic but I don't drink anymore and when I used to drink I would wake up to him on top of me to it I don't know how he manages to take off my clothes, sometimes I would wake up to him doing it and I just let him finish coz I know he will not leave me alone until he has cum, I am in this situation because of my poor choice I know and I just want to tell girls and boys out there or young women even older women, you don't need to have sex with someone until you actually really feel like it is for the right reasons otherwise sex is a useless thing driving people to madness I don't know why they call sex making love there is no connection or what so ever between love and sex. Actually these two are total opposites, Making love in the old days was misinterpreted as fucking but it is the conception process. Conceiving which is when the egg is fertilized with the spell that is in the Bible what they were trying to tell us is making love, For God is love and God is life and we are created in his image, so this was to be referred to as making love, "making love happens where away from mans sight " meaning you can't see the egg and spell fertilizing, let's be realistic and not be fools . Only a fool is hang on sex, like a teenager, I already have a son he is 5 I got him before I met this man and my son is away from this I haven't been in his life because I need to be financially, mentally, and emotionally stable before I pop out into his life and introduce him to stupid men I tend to pick from the street . I know God's love is with him the way he is with me , everything is a lesson or it's there just to push us to become who we really are supposed to become, And everyone will get tested and the end evil never wins it does seem like it at times, but we are stronger that anything outside of us , your higher power is within you and no one can take that.