{~Name~}
Historia original
Stories have a beginning, middle, and end. I don’t know if mine started when I was 7 and the little boy in class silently slid his hands over my body, while my teacher sat and did nothing. She was “waiting for me to speak up”. Maybe it started with my father, years later when he mistook me for my mother as I snuck into their bed after a nightmare. But I know that the teenage boy who found me the summer before I started high school firmly cemented a life of trauma. When he showed interest in me, a 14 year old who had never even held a boys hand, I was confused. This 17 year old, all cigarette smoke and angst, staring at me and seeing something mature enough to spend time with. I pushed down the disgust as he touched me for the first time. Shoved away the sinking feeling with his first kiss. Put on a happy face when he declared we were dating and told everyone I was happy. I kept that same mask on as the bruises started. And he wrapped his thick callused fingers around my A cup, barely developing chest and squeezed until he could pretend I wasn’t still a child. I hid the finger prints he left every time he touched me, even as I privately tried to convince myself they were normal, wondered why my mother did not carry the same bruises. I feigned pride as I shared the story of being coerced into sex. I faked enjoyment while he treated me as an object of conquest, ignoring the nightmares, sickness, suicidal thoughts. I stood loyally by as he threatened my friends, my family, fought any young boy that noticed something may be wrong. I even cried when he left, moving on to a 17 year old girl who I later found out hit him back. I spent years trying to find the pride I once had in myself before meeting him. The pride that was stripped away further as I was assaulted by a decades older stranger in college, my new “best friend” telling me it was dramatic to call it rape. My high school “lover” found me then to make sure I knew so many girls like me were assaulted, to hide myself away so I couldn’t be raped, missing the irony of giving advice to hide from what he had already done to me. I’m not sure there was a word for what the next man, {~Name~} stole, as he turned our first date into a forever drive, going block to block, refusing to stop the car until I finally gave in and gave him what he wanted. I found the strength to refuse all the way to his bed, when he told me he would not drive me home until I was more sober, and casually slipped on a condom. Kind to consider protection in the midst of me making sure he knew I did not want it, asking if he understood I was saying no. Or maybe it was {~Name 2~}. The one who feigned friendship and kindness, all while screaming at my inability to orgasm without having a flashback to the men before him. Who cried and punched and flailed when I would not twist my trauma into something more palatable. Who led to my psychotic break and then pretended to save me from myself. Seeing the faces of strangers melt into all the men who had ever touched me led me to finding hope. A strange sentence about the scariest part of my life. It has been 10 years and I am about to get married. 10 years of trauma therapy. Of fighting strangers in dark bars who dared to even look at me. Of screaming flashbacks where my partner helps me remember who and where and why. Of clinging to life, just barely at times, but somehow still being alive today. I turn 30 next week. I have been assaulted more times than I can write. I have been made into an object, stripped of my strength for the convenience of small men. I am no longer small. I am not weak. I am not an object. I get married in 128 days. My partner goes to therapy with me. He knows the names of each person who has hurt me. He has held me and comforted me, he has lifted me up and helped me remember who I am. He is safe. He is love. I turn 30 next week. I wish I could say getting here was easy. It wasn’t. But I turn 30 next week and I’m happy. I am safe. I feel safe. I have a partner and friends and a dog and a fat cat. I have a home. I went through hell and I’m still here and it doesn’t hurt the same way it did anymore. That ache is now distant. Like a bruise rather than a gaping wound. I hope others that survive what I have can find a way to make it long enough to thrive. The suffering stops. You are not alone.