It was the summer before 7th grade, I had been living with my biological dad, his wife, her daughter and my brother for about 2 years. Home life was not great, I continuously body shamed as I looked “like a woman” early in life, blamed for things that I had no control over and told by my stepmother that she wished I didn’t exist. By the time a “family friend” moved into the house in July that summer, I had been so broken down that I did not feel worthy of even the close on my back. It was 2 weeks before my birthday when my biological dad, stepmother and the “family friend” came home so under the influence of whatever they did that night when everything in my life changed. I remember hearing someone come into my room, so I pretended to be asleep because I didn’t want to get in trouble for being up late. That night my life changed. This “family friend” climbed into my bed, before I could say or do anything he was hoovering over me with his hand over my mouth. At this point, I felt myself become more aware of my surroundings, every sound, every smell, even the posters on my walls. His breath smelled like alcohol and cigarettes, and I remember him saying, “just let this happen, I’m going to make you a woman.” I can remember looking at my alarm clock, it was 2:14 am. I felt him touch me, kiss me and then finally raped me. When everything was over, and I opened my eyes it was 2:45am. The last thing he said before he left my room was to clean up the mess I made; he stole my virginity from me that night, I was 11. I hid my blood-stained sheets in the outside garbage can that night. That next afternoon when my biological dad woke up, I told him what happened. The response I received was “Why do you have to be such a lying bitch.” I was grounded for 2 weeks for “lying.” This cycle of abuse continued for 7 months. When I was 12, I got pregnant because of this abuse. I remember my friend’s mom taking me to planned parenthood in the next town over because I was too afraid to tell my dad that I missed my period. I remember the nurse coming into the room telling me my pregnancy test was positive and seeing it on the ultrasound machine. Even in a safe environment, I could not bring myself to tell someone that I was being raped for months. I was 12 when I had an abortion. My dad was so high that he didn’t even know that I was gone for a week staying at a friend’s house. I did not tell another person what happened to me until I was an adult, and that person was a therapist. It took me until I was 33 years old to finally tell my mom and stepdad (who is the best man, I have ever known). When I was finally able to tell my mom and stepdad what happened to me, the biggest question was “why didn’t you tell us?” It was a simple question, but the answer did seem so simple. Why would I tell another adult, if the one person (my dad) that was supposed to be my protector called me a liar. I found a way to make this horrific event in my life a positive. I am now a nurse who advocates for others who have been in similar situations. I am proud of the woman I have become. Today, I can say with my whole heart that I know what happened to me was NOT my fault. I can say the I AM WORTHY of love, kindness, and respect. Just know YOU are WORTHY of everything that you want in life.