Dear {~guy~}, I still remember the night I told people that I had a “crush on my best guy friend”. I was out with friends downtown to see the Christmas tree. In my attention seeking way I announced that I had a HUGE crush on the tall curly haired boy who happened to be one of my best guy friends. As teenage girls do when someone shares their crush, they swooned over photos of you and giggled as I relayed your best qualities. Truth be told, it wasn’t you. You weren’t the special guy who caught my heart. That was a point in my life where I was so desperate to be loved that I fell for anyone who was even remotely kind to me. And you were. You laughed at my jokes, you let me rant about my anxiety. I was going through one of the hardest times in my life and you showed me kindness. Don’t count yourself special though. If any other man had been there for me I would have fallen for them too. You aren’t unique, you aren’t better than other men. You were there at the right time. That is all. You were taken, anyway. You fancied another girl from the {~school~} team, smart and quirky. I was jealous. I listened to you talk about her body and how you yearned to touch her in all of her private places. You juxtaposed those with comments about her socially awkward nature, her lack of style, her uncombed hair. You despised that she refused to accept your affection. Your narcissistic cells craved for her to fall for you. They couldn't wrap their heads around the fact that someone, especially her, didn’t like you back. You complained about it to me and I listened. I told you that you didn’t need her, you could do better. I remember when you and I sat in a bathroom during the homecoming after party, me sitting against the cold tile shower as you ranted about her. Everyone laughed and pointed when we finally came out. Oh how I wished what they thought happened was true. Then, you kissed me! As during our usual hangouts, we were complaining about her. We sat in the back of my {~car~} in a parking lot. It was dark on a school night, the specific day of the week has slipped my mind. You complained about being horny and wishing she had done things with you. “Give me a hickey. We can pretend she did it.” My eyes grew wider. No man had ever wanted me sexually before. I panicked. How do I kiss a boy? How do I give a boy a hickey? What if you hated it and never wanted to see me again? “Come on, just do it… come on…” I was suddenly pushed up against the car door. You kissed me. My hands gripped the seat below my tightly. I pulled away. “I- I don’t know if I’m doing this right…” You ignored my obvious discomfort and pushed me against the seat again, kissing more forcefully. “I also need to get home soon, it’s a school night. My mom will be mad if I get home past my curfew.” I said more forcefully this time. “Just one more, don’t tease me like that”. You moved in again… “I can’t, I can’t be home late.” “Just one more. I want you…” I don’t remember how many more I gave you. I finally promised you I would give you more once we arrived at your house and you didn’t fail to remind me. The night ended with me curled up in my mom’s arms crying. I was consumed with thoughts of what had happened in that car late that night. However, I pushed past the discomfort and focused on the positive: my first ever kiss! As one does after their well awaited first kiss, I bragged to all of my friends. Their excitement coated over the anxiety about your forcefulness in the backset. Fast forward two weeks. You and I sit in the window seat, picking at our {~meal~}. “What is this?” I ask, looking up at you. These past two weeks have been a whirlwind. From the mall parking lot to the park off of {~that street~}, my body had been used to pleasure you. “I like you more than a hookup”. My hand sits softly in yours. You know exactly what to say. Later you would tell me that this wasn’t the case, you just knew you had to say this in order to continue hooking up with me. That’s what you’re great at though, right? Stringing me along, saying the exact right things to me in order to assure that my body would be ready for your use again. Lucky for you, I was just a vulnerable, inexperienced young girl. Lucky for you, I looked up to you. Lucky for you. Things continued to escalate. You moved me from parking lot to parking lot, forcing me to kiss you. Police came and checked on us multiple times, each time leaving me feeling more and more vulnerable and ashamed. You would yell and degrade me until I pleased you. Then, you shared your pedophilic urges with me. I still remember the first time I sat in your room in a diaper. You had laid it out on your bed, ready for use. You had monogrammed it to make it seem more inviting. Thanks? I remember sitting on your floor in agony, the pain in my bladder almost unbearable. I physically could not pee in it. You pushed and pushed, telling me to use it. The wet, warm, soon to be familiar squishy feeling sat on my bottom as I sat on the toilet. You congratulated me. That was the first night in ages that we hadn’t fought. I went home that night with feelings of disgust for myself. I had peed in a diaper in front of you. I had never felt more vulnerable and scared. The occurrences only escalated. I was asked to put it on again and again. This escalated for a year and a half. I truly cannot bear to write the rest. I still suffer everyday from this shame and fear. I hate that you did this to me, using me for your sick fantasy. I hate it.